Consider Marissa Alexander who, nine days after giving birth, fired two warning shots at the ceiling to deter her ex-husband, who was chasing her through the house, having already assaulted her, with clear intent to do harm. Florida might want to spell out its "testes possession" clause in its Stand Your Ground law.Like her, most women who face these situations are either criminalized or pathologized.And, yes, I am putting our country in the same area of comparison as the rest of the world.

So, for example, we have gendered correlations between abuse and homelessness that result from abuse because our economic system enshrines complementary roles for men and women that leave women economically vulnerable, their life stages largely out of sync with how the work place is structured.

Or, the fact that women who defend themselves against domestic violence are often imprisoned, with lengthy sentences, because self-defense laws and penalties have historically been based on stranger assaults -- between people assumed to be relatively proportionally physically similar -- which are overwhelmingly experienced by men.

So, for example, homosexuals, transsexuals, immigrants and native Americans assaulted by non-Native Americans are citizens enough.

"Hostile," which is a word that can and has been used to describe the tenor of Republican objections, isn't just a metaphor when you are talking about thousands of people (some of whom may be homosexuals, transsexuals, immigrants or Native American women assaulted by non-Tribal men), routinely humiliated, hit, kicked, raped, stalked, beaten, strangled and murdered every day, most often by spouses.

Men who abuse are untreated, controlling, violent and stripped of their humanity.

The societal costs are great: everything from increased poverty and homelessness to maternal mortality and expensive emergency health care provisions. And last, but certainly not least, violence in the home is the surest predictor of violence at the state level, a tolerance for such violence reflecting a propensity for militarization and war. The fact that in some countries obvious and extreme violence against women is practiced in systemic ways shouldn't be a reason to dismiss our own, which are also sometimes on violent public display.

Even though, given the statistics, knows people who are being abused, whether they realize it or not. In addition, everyone knows, women "gold diggers and frauds" lie about these things.

I often hear something along these lines: if only these women would just LEAVE their abusers. Besides, why should we worry, as some point out in disgust, "Western women, with few exceptions, are safe and free," these facts are "myths" and those loopy feminists and bleeding heart liberals exaggerate so that they can ruin men's lives and drive them to American Male Emasculation Hell (otherwise know as FOX).

Providing facts about sexual abuse is one of the ways to raise awareness about sexual abuse.