The book prompted a screaming match on Oprah's show; she devoted a whole episode to the topic of "do The Rules work or don't they? But the overall theme, presented to you as lovingly as your captor might tuck you in at night, is: adjust to men's needs. I was certain, at the age of 26, that my failure to secure a boyfriend meant I was doing something wrong.

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The paperback version hit the New York Times best-seller list the following year.

Rules support groups for women sprang up around the country. To wit: In bed, "don't be a drill sergeant, demanding that he do this or that. Remember, those are your needs you're concerned about filling, and The Rules are a selfless way of living and handling a relationship." The reader is left wondering when she could finally let her — long! — hair down and be her pushy, needy, authentic self. A subsequent book was The Rules for Marriage.) But what The Rules offered, more than anything, was a strategy.

Hint: The rules are exactly the same, just apply them to your i Phone.

Instead of "Don't Talk to a Man," make like a delicate flower and don't Facebook, text, tweet, or even consider hitting up that manly man via dating site.

Personally, this editor sexted, lived with, and talked constantly at her now-husband and things turned out pretty dandy.

Instead of what NOT to do, how about, "Just Be Your Wonderful Self?

"Do you understand that if you leave now, it's over?

" he shouted, as he followed me out of the lobby and onto the sidewalk to the waiting car.

came out, essentially warning women that the only surefire way to land a guy was to fasten your chastity belt, shut up, and wait for him to pursue you. Among the 35 rules were grave warnings: "Don't Talk to a Man First (and Don't Ask Him to Dance)," "Don't Talk Too Much", and "Don't Live with a Man." Basically, authors Sherrie Schneider and Ellen Fein stopped just short of suggesting your dad offer your fiancé a dowry of 40 goats and 20 cows.

, we Cosmo girls survived the past 17 years freely opening our mouths, hitting on guys, living with them, asking them to dance, and—gasp–having sex (earmuffs, Sherrie and Ellen: Sometimes on the first date! Lucky for us, , enlightening us on how (not) to date in light of texting, sexting, Facebook, Match, and JDate!

This was right after the 1995 publication of The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. The Rules was a dating guide, a set of instructions on what to do and not do to catch a man. 2: "Don't Talk to a Man First") undemanding (Rule No.