James Dobson, and started speaking routinely at conferences.

The headship model, in which the man is considered God-ordained head of the family, was common, as was the “Quiverfull” ideology – bearing as many children as God gave you, rejecting on principle any means of birth control, so you could have a “full quiver” of children to lead God’s fight. “There was an onslaught of cancelled subscriptions. “People found out where I lived by going to the post office, then they showed up at my house and wanted me to pray.” * * * was a 600-page book of lessons, recipes and lifestyle meditations that Seelhoff (then Cheryl Lindsey) distributed to friends.

Marriage was sacred, and Seelhoff had filed for divorce. When she began the magazine, after self-publishing the book, she had 23 subscribers.

Influential minister Bill Gothard, recently accused of sexually harassing ten women, wrote that when a wife initiates divorce, “She’s exposing herself to Satan’s power.” Within days of the divorce filing, Seelhoff’s pastor read the letter accusing her of “adultery” and “lying.” Sue Welch, publisher of magazine, assembled a “packet” about Seelhoff to send to Christian homeschooling leaders.

Then in January 1995, Welch published a memo in her magazine referring to Seelhoff’s “false teachings” and stating that she planned to “marry the man who was involved in sin with her.” Mary Pride, an author who criticized feminism and promoted the Quiverfull lifestyle, had just shuttered her magazine ?

Liebe Besucherin, lieber Besucher, Ich in in den Weihnachtsferien. Januar werde ich mich wieder um Ihre Fragen zur Relgion, Kirche und Glaube kümmern.

Bis dahin wünsche ich Ihnen eine gesegnete Weihnachtszeit, und kommen Sie gut in das neue Jahr!

Cheryl Lindsey had over 15,000 mostly female subscribers and was gaining nearly a thousand per month. Her husband, Claude Lindsey, had been out of work for four years, according to their 1995 divorce-related filings, and she claims his anger problems had led to abusive behavior toward her and the children.

In 1994, according to trial testimonies by Cheryl and her sons, Claude Lindsey moved to New Orleans to live with his mother and undergo anger management counseling.

For the gatekeepers of the Christian homeschooling movement, divorce was an ultimate failing.

Like those fire-and-brimstone evangelists who made the religious right what it was in the 1980s (Jerry Fallwell, Pat Robertson), they promoted deliberately patriarchal models, where wife submits to husband.

But she doesn’t look back on the decades she spent as a Christian homeschooling mother with any derision.