Depending on how old the man you’re seeing is, he might have certain goals he’s trying to finish accomplishing.

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It’s okay to take interest in things he has a passion for, but don’t start doing things you know you can’t stand to make a good impression. All that *I know you can read my mind so you should know I’m hella pissed* way of doing things could get you ignored by an older man real quick. So if you’re upset about something substantial, don’t be afraid to calm yourself down, open your mouth and let it be known that you’ve been hurt by his actions.

That includes cooking elaborate meals, pretending you enjoy baseball and agreeing to watch old war movies. If you don’t want to do something or don’t like something, speak on it.

While I love me some him, my partner has no problem with chilling indoors all day, catching up on his taped shows and eating the same rice dish every week. Feel free to encourage an opportunity for the both of you to cook together. Hit up a cute wine bar and talk about more than work.

Try a new type of food (and pitch in to pay from time to time), or if you must stay cooped up in the house, pull out the Dominoes.

Every man is different, and sometimes change of self doesn’t come with a change in age.

Don’t start changing things about yourself to mold into wifey-material, just because he knows he wants to settle down soon.

With all that drive comes a lot of time we don’t get to share together.

Early on I used to have a fit every week about what he could do to make more time for me, but at a certain point, after some compromising, you end up just trying to be supportive and patient.

But the guy I’m dating is focused on taking his career to the next level.

He’s busy studying for a major exam that will allow him to work for whomever he wants and to make the kind of moves and money I probably won’t ever see (hey, columnists weren’t meant to be millionaires).

Nothing hurts more than when a relationship has ended, especially when betrayal is involved in some way. Relax, take a deep breath and follow some of these tips to help you through.