Jessica Says: NEVER – It’s Called Girl Code I would never date one of my friend’s exes, and I hope that they know better than to never date mine. ) Some things are just common courtesy and a gesture of respect.

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She married years ago to an old classmate of mine and as far as I know still is. I have lived silently with my 3 year high school sweetheart through 40 years of marriage with another woman.

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lesbian dating etiquette - Dating an ex from 20 years ago

I'm constantly amazed by the amount of email I get at "Savage Love" from men and women--but mostly women--absolutely furious about a friend dating an ex.

It's possible my sample is skewed; folks that gonna send me letters complaining about it when it happens.

From what I recall I was again devestated but recovered more quickly the second time around as I think I became more mad at her for doing this to me a second time.

She still wanted to date me and I believe we did go out for another date or two but it was never the same for me.

For some reason the last couple of weeks I have not been able to stop thinking about her..continue to analyze in my mind where things went wrong years ago...what could I have done to make it turn out differently.

I have not seen or heard from her in over 30 years.

We seemed to run in to each other frequently and my heart always skipped a beat when I saw her but we never did resume dating.

So..moved on for me and within the following year I met my current wife.

Dont get me wrong my dad still plays a huge role in my life, and I cant imagine. Evil ex-wives can and will make your life a living hell.

Posted by: Dan Savage Topic: You're attracted to a very good friend's ex--now what?

I have been married 35 years to a great wife with whom I have raised 2 great kids, so the feelings I am experiencing have left me more than confused.