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This is not to say older men don’t come with their own sets of problems, but the typical dating woes of our age group are not in play. Ghosting is a terribly rude habit men of our generation have adopted.Older men, however, seem to be less likely to pull that crap and are more likely to be upfront and break up with you if it isn’t working.I’ve heard so many different rules about dating someone older, and they all boil down to a magic number: “Don’t date anyone more than ten years older,” or “Marriages never work if there’s more than fifteen years’ difference.” People love rules, telling themselves that abiding by them will cause them to get hurt less. The most important rule to follow is a general one: Make sure the two of you have the same goals for the relationship and for your daily life together. Think about whether you want to get married; have a big or tiny wedding; have children; be with someone who already has kids; live in the future in the same town or city where you’ve been dating; move somewhere far or close; have extended family very involved or not very involved in your life; have a relationship where you socialize almost always together or often; have a partner who’s more of a social butterfly or homebody; and have a partner who is very involved or not very involved in extracurricular activities. Psychological Age You’ve probably heard someone say, “He seems young for his age,” or “She’s so young at heart.” Though we all have a chronological age, we also have what I refer to as a ‘psychological age.’ How old do you feel, for example? In addition, ask yourself what the psychological age is of your prospective older partner. Again, use those early months of a relationship to gauge whether your sexualities are congruent enough.
Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women.
There’s no denying that they’re, for the most part, in better shape, with better skin, and less baggage from broken relationships.
If so, you either need a partner to like the same things, or you need to find someone who is fine with you doing those things without him or her.
Assess Your Social Circles Take an honest look at your friends and anyone else who is a recurring character in your social life.
How will he or she fit in with your social life as it exists today?
In addition, think about everyone with whom your prospective partner socializes. The most harmonious relationships involve a fairly seamless overlap of social circles.
Do your homework and get to know your new crush well before you let yourself truly fall in love.
You’d never guess, but caution can, in fact, lead to powerful lasting love.
Men who have already had families, children, and careers know what they have to do to be productive and reach their goals. Since older men have been around a bit longer and experienced more, they have a better idea of what they want out of a partner and life. Again, this won’t apply to all older men, but generally speaking, with experience comes skill.
It’s refreshing to date someone who knows pretty quickly if you are or aren’t what they want. Since they have a lot more past than you do, they understand that your past got you where you are, but that it doesn’t define you. Look at it this way: even if the older man you’re dating is not your forever, the next younger guy you date could be. Since older guys know what they want, they also know what they want in bed, and what you want, too.
Assess Your Respective Sexualities Though I find that most people overemphasize the importance of sex and sexual attraction, intimacy is a factor worth considering.