In sum, the key to successful parenting post-divorce is helping your kids heal from your breakup and introducing them to a new love too soon might complicate, delay, or damage this process.

You can simply tell your kids that you’re going out with a new friend and that’s enough information.

Let your children know that you have an abundance of love to go around.

5 Rules For Introducing Your New Partner To Your Children: Be sure to be careful about sleepovers with your partner when you have children living with you.

It’s not wise to plan an overnight with your new love interest in your home right away because it can increase rivalry between them and your kids.

She didn’t understand why Baylie didn’t share her enthusiasm for Kevin because he was so perfect for their family.

As Caroline spoke, disappointment was apparent in her voice: “Kevin’s just so ideal for our family and I can really be myself with him. I figured that Baylie would like him because he’s a lot of fun and I was blindsided when she started complaining about him.” During our second session, I asked Caroline if she had thought through any disadvantages of introducing her daughter Baylie to Kevin so soon.

One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my new partner to my children?

My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.While it’s normal to seek solace, companionship, and a sexual relationship after a breakup, it’s crucial to take it slow so you can assess whether this relationship is casual or might be permanent.The number-one thing to keep in mind when deciding when to introduce a new partner to your kids is timing after your divorce. Even if both of you are in love and seem to have a lot in common, breakups are common and kids get caught in the crossfire.Do you want your teenager to model their behavior after you?If so, you owe it to yourself and your kids to build new relationships thoughtfully.Don’t be surprised if your children reject your new partner at first.