Like those guys who repress their sexuality for the ‘straight’ life of wife, kids and IKEA flat-packs, it can’t be healthy to imprison such a storm.

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I remember phoning up the NHS Direct helpline, telling them I’d had my tongue up this boy’s ass, and asking whether I needed PEP.

A lovely lady at the other end of the phone carefully but clearly explained: “No, babe.” Yet his status was why I didn’t call up the boy again.

The first time I knowingly slept with someone with HIV I was 23.

The boy was 20 and he told me drunk on the night bus home.

He’d never once mentioned his status, and I’d assumed he was negative. Huddled together in the corner of a shrieking pub full of whiskey-soaked drag queens, he confided in me a status he’d told no one. He’d read an article I’d written online and had assumed I was positive too.

I kissed him and grabbed his hand, and stole him away from the drag queens to go home and have him to myself.

And that, my friends, is how we came up with HIV Blind Date.

HIV is the gay scene’s boogie man,” said DJ Mark Ashley-Dupe in our Young People’s Discussion of HIV.

Because the way to fight HIV isn’t separately, it’s together.

HIV Blind Date is on Thursday 21 January at the Queen’s Head, 25 Tyron Street, SW3 3LG.

I knew something about HIV from the magazines and GMFA flyers, and that if somebody came inside you that was a big risk.