The price we have to pay if we engage in open relationships is: to be denied any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

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He states that in order for healthy relationships to take place, we need to practice purity, patience and commitment, coupled with Christ’s mercy.

We should not pursue members of the opposite sex just for fun.

I was the eldest daughter of a conservative Christian minister, and my parents did everything “right.” I was in church and Sunday school every week, part of a local AWANA club memorizing Bible verses, and homeschooled in a conservative group led by other religious parents.

I sat for hours listening to straight white men talk about how there would be college professors who would challenge my faith and ridicule me for believing in God, and how there would be roommates, friends, or coworkers that would pressure me into having sex — because having sex as a good straight Christian woman, as we all know, is the cardinal sin.

I learned very quickly that sex was shameful, and not something you talked about openly.

Cut to when I was a teenager and learning how to masturbate.Now, for the first time since its release, the national #1 bestseller has been expanded with new content and updated for new readers. Honest and practical, it challenges cultural assumptions about relationships and provides solid, biblical alternatives to society's norm. My mother made a face and said, “they should have waited until they got married to do that.” That is the very first bit of sex education I remember: you should wait until marriage to do anything remotely sexual and if you don’t, there’s something wrong with you. Because I was a very curious and sexually driven child, I learned from sneaking books off my dad’s bookshelf about the consequences of sexual abuse and rape.My introduction to sex education was not presented as something that loving partners did to care for each other, but rather something horrific and ugly that a man did to a woman or child.I honestly think that most evangelical Christians subconsciously believe that consensual sex between men and women is worse than rape.