You might imagine that dating a new woman will be a lot like starring in your very own girl-on-girl romantic comedy: you’ll be asked out in some quirky yet perfect way, your date will clearly express interest in you and be a master of seduction, and when you finally have sex, it will be like the 4th of July in your pants and Christmas in your heart (or Hanukkah, whatevs). I think we all have our own lesbian dating horror stories that we like to tell our friends as a warning of things to come. If we could just collectively raise the bar a little and invest as much in the art of dating as we do in the art of Facebooking, maybe lesbian courtship could be a brave new world. The revolution won’t come overnight, so let’s start small with some of the main DOs and DONT’s. ” Well as it turns out, apparently everyone is better than lesbians.Doing this doesn’t mean that you’re too available or that you want to marry her.

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Obvs you’re going to talk to your besties about it, but try to refrain from buying an ad on Facebook.

The greater lesbian community does not need to know who you are dating or what you did on your date.

Ask them to do a specific activity at a specific time and place.

Preferably an activity that is reflective of something most people enjoy (i.e good food) or something that they have mentioned enjoying in conversation.

I love the internet and large groups of unknown lesbians give me anxiety-driven bitch face, so dating via the App store sounds like a fabulous idea to me. Online dating is nothing new, and while some straight people might hesitate to post their personals on the internet for fear of stigma, almost every lesbian I know has at some point gone online to find lurve or at least sex.

It just makes sense; gay-dar has limitations, lesbian nights can feel far and feel between, and meeting a girl organically can feel impossible as a gay woman.Think of your date as your canvas; it’s going to say a lot about you.Are you creative enough to do some Googling to find an interesting restaurant followed by an out-of-the-box activity?Don’t say “we should hang out.” If you want to ask someone out, ask them out.Don’t allude to some hypothetical situation in which you could share airspace with them.I know it’s easy to say “let’s get a drink after dinner,” because there are a million bars and nothing creates fake intimacy like booze, but try to think of something else.