That’s what women want in men and they assume it’s of equal importance to them. Men DO value intelligence, but they also want from their girlfriend what they CAN’T get from their business associates. If he finds himself constantly hearing all the things he needs to change, he may just determine that he wants a bright woman who is less challenging. But a huge reason I’m with my wife is because she spends her time loving and supporting me, not challenging me on everything from movie tickets, to travel plans, to wake up times. This doesn’t mean you should play dumb, or be weak and needy, no more than the nice guy should start acting like a jackass.

It might mean, however, turning off some of the things that make you “successful” at work. I discovered what you’ve written through taking a self evaluation test.

Boredom, lack of balls, and overall disappointment are contributing factors. Like I said, if you are male and not Swedish, you already have a leading position.

If you have the ability to speak to girls without being a pussy and make good conversation, again, major brownie posts.

This doesn’t mean I’m not who I am around men, it just means that I use the same skills in my personal life I learned to use in my professional.

There are some meetings I can go into and run the show, and others where I have to be subordinate.

I used to think this was dumbing myself down, or playing to the masses, being fake, or not true to myself.

But what I realized is there’s a reason they call this the dating “game” and if you want to play, you have to learn the rules.I’m a girl, an American-Indian girl, and therefore am not Swedish.But I have a few Swedish girlfriends and they all have opinions of their fellow male counterparts. Swedish guys have done a good job of losing their balls over the years, part thanks to feminism, part thanks to super tight jeans that served as self castrating devices.So when I hear a woman talk about how “direct” she is, the first thing I think is: “She’s tactless.” I wrote about this in an article for entitled “Are You Honest… ” Self-proclaimed “direct” people often tell their dates what they think about them even if the date didn’t ask.They often try to change partners who have no desire to be changed. 😉 See, there’s a price to pay for “being ourselves.” And if you’re going to express your opinion, you can’t be surprised if other people disagree with you. Maureen Dowd, the Pulitzer Prize winning columnist for the New York Times, wrote an entire book about this, called “Are Men Necessary? One of her main observations is that if an amazing woman like her could be single, there must be something wrong with men.And finally, if you have some gentlemanly qualities, the beautiful blond Swedish girls will be all over you.