Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time.It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. Greater Comfort One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself.

I still wasn’t the most confident guy (for example, I still wasn’t randomly asking girls out in public) but I was becoming very comfortable on dates, which gave the appearance of confidence. Less Stress With dating multiple women, there was always another first date on the horizon. I lost my hell-bent desire to make every date go perfectly.

When the stress lessened, I stopped paying attention to myself and started paying attention to my date.

Breaking off communication with someone I had nothing in common with, or at least who was missing qualities I was looking for, became easy.

Honestly, it was often a relief because there were more first dates waiting and I would be able to remove someone from my list of potentials.

When I first started online dating, I had this notion that dating more than one person simultaneously would somehow be insincere. There were times where I would end up talking to a few girls at once but this was always accidental.

With this approach, I went on one first-date every month, sometimes less.

I was discovering which conversations worked better than others and was able to avoid bumps in the conversation all together.

The confusion of first-dates was disappearing altogether. I hadn’t even thought that having fun could be a part of online dating but as I grew more comfortable, I had more fun.

I would continue to date someone negative or rude or conceited and would just hope that things would just eventually “work themselves out”.

All this changed when my dating schedule became very active.

As the stress began to lessen, I started representing who I was much better.