and p.m., behind the half-burned building on 12th and Oak.

Park your car on 13th and make sure no one sees you.

There are also online groups where these guys exchange their stories, get support for their dual lives and find the occasional hookup.

And then there are online chat rooms, gay hook-up sites, and gay apps that are also used by men who are married and "just having sex with men," even though they're "not gay." After all, why not fish where you're most likely to hook one, especially when you can do it incognito! " I support my brothers and sisters who still haven't come to terms with their sexuality for one reason only.

Society's lack of education and understanding towards alternatives to heterosexuality has forced people, men and women, into hiding in mixed-orientation marriages.

This leads to people not living their authentic lives, nasty divorces, children who question their own sexuality after a parent comes out and numerous other problems, not to mention unhappy endings (not the massage kind).

I've also joined the ranks of the "happily divorced" and I'm no longer messing around with other married men, disengaging from the experience and pretending to be something I'm not.

However, contrary to popular belief, there are more "married men looking for married men" out there.

Okay, maybe all men who are playing around on the side are thinking with their penises instead of their heads.

Not sure if it's the thrill of the adventure or what, but I've encountered—both in my personal life and among the clients I've worked with—married men who take sexual risks, have sex more frequently than the average gay man and seem to see themselves as invincible because they're "married and only playing with other married men." Last time I checked, STDs don't discriminate between single, married, gay and straight. Often, people tend to seek help from those who haven't traveled a similar path. Just remember, you need to understand not only how you've hidden it for all these years, but how to come clean and be authentic about who you are, so you can someday become a married gay man ... Rick Clemons, The Coming Out Coach: Certified Professional Coach (CPC), Energy Leader Index, Master Practioner (ELI-MP), International Coach Federation, Associate Certified Coach (ACC).

How does a 56 year old man find a good younger woman that would be interested in marriage and willing to have children by him? Most good sites line me up with the 50 year olds and most 36 year olds tend to think I’m a dirty old man.

I know that such a person exists but can’t find a good avenue to find her. Thank you, Dale, for acknowledging a few very common truths from the world of online dating.

Which leads me to wonder why, after I came out of the closet, I would never date a married man: Screwing up someone else's marriage is not my responsibility.