Let’s go through these scenarios, one by one, and note the difference between a true Shy Guy and one whose feelings are simply lukewarm: As Rules women know, we don’t “do the rules” on men.We do The Rules on ourselves, stripping away negative behaviors and replacing them with healthy behaviors that naturally allow attraction to build.

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Many women mistakenly assume that being overly friendly and "easy to get" will reassure the Shy Guy. Being "easy" and laying everything out on a plate will actually make him retreat further into his shell.

You'll be pursuing him, so your energy will shift from being feminine to masculine, and that's not healthy or sexy (for you or for him) in the long run.

Sure, he’d be okay with having casual sex with her and hanging out until something better comes along.

But I don’t know many women who enjoy being the good-enough-for-now option.

What he responds to best is a woman with a light, feminine touch; like a beautiful butterfly, she shimmers just out of reach.

By not “helping” him date you, you are letting him know that you see him as the competent adult man that he is. If he approaches you and you start dating, trust that he can figure out what to do.

Your confidence in him will inspire him to do his best.

If he is paying attention and trying to learn your preferences, then he is a keeper.

If the relationship moves forward, it's because he to lead toward commitment.

If a man tends toward an introverted personality, it’s even more important that you let him lead.

That doesn’t mean he is satisfied or happy with that dynamic, or that he isn't capable of pursuing you if he’s motivated to do so.