When friends began to point out other red flags about our relationship, I took some time to seriously seek God’s will on the matter.I’d been struggling with making a decision about this particular relationship for at least a year.Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too.

It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband.

We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way (although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me).

In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.

In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.

” “If we have children, will it be important to him that they are raised by godly principles and involved in church?

” It turns out we were not in sync on these issues, and I decided to end the relationship. But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me.

I truly wanted to do what I felt was God’s will, but I also really didn’t want to give up the relationship.

It wasn’t until I was fully ready to obey God’s leading, that the answer came.

I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.

I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.

Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one.