It would appear that at least an extreme feminism and its goals and values are incompatible with femininity.

In fact, if you were to ask some of the more feminine women you know what they think of feminism, chances are that they will smirk and say that they are not the biggest feminists out there and they do not really support or care for the movement.

Sometimes, when I use the term “femininity” I get this defensive reaction from women, accusing me of being a chauvinist, of wanting women to be subservient housewives, who stay at home cooking and cleaning all day. Being feminine doesn’t mean being subservient and staying at home all day cooking and cleaning.

The vast majority of men are naturally attracted and driven sexually and otherwise to women who are feminine. The formal definition of femininity is a good start, but it doesn’t really get you far in understanding what makes one woman appear more feminine than the other. A woman who has a more attractive body physically (wider hips, narrower waist, softer and smoother skin, thicker lips and eye brows, moderate height etc..) will likely come across as more feminine.

I believe that the femininity consists of three components: 1. Feminine style of clothing, such as wearing skirts and dresses will also contribute to a woman’s physical femininity more than a unisex attire.

The first to becoming more feminine is as simple and obvious as it is absolutely essential.

As long as you think, like so many other women out there, that being and acting like one of the girls in “Jersey Shore” makes you cool, you are not going to have the belief and the motivation necessary to become more feminine.

Feminine energy is perfectly compatible with pursuing your own personal, academic and professional goals.

Femininity is about the energy you radiate with your behavior and demeanor; it’s not about being a pushover all the time and letting others take advantage of you.

A few men (including myself) would tell you that a voice alone, that’s really unattractive, can be a deal-breaker.

The behavioral aspects of femininity involve a woman’s mannerisms, such as body language, demeanor, eye contact, and how she uses the language.

Her body language and accent didn’t exactly make her sound like the Duchess of York before, but she took steps to act and talk more like a lady.

And Lopez she is just one example that can serve as an inspiration to any other women who feels like she could use a boost in the femininity department.

It goes without saying that any traditionally male bad habits, such as smoking, excessive drinking, spitting, etc., make a woman more masculine and therefore – less feminine.