epo not updating - What the bases mean in dating
Thus, you’re judging him not merely for your feelings towards him, but rather his consistent efforts to call you and see you over the course of a month. How many of those same men prove to do it over and over and over again for 4-6 weeks? An easier way to look at this is that you have MUCH more information about a person after, say, 7-8 dates than you do after 2-3 dates.
If he’s still a good guy who calls consistently, sees you consistently, and seems to want to be monogamous, then you should feel secure in giving him a shot, as opposed to doing what most of us do: hopping into bed first, “committing”, and realizing that we’ve made a terrible choice due to chemistry.
I agree with Evan’s advice to have the boyfriend/sexclusivity conversation before sex.
Just wait to see if he’s acting like a boyfriend FIRST; don’t treat him like one until he’s earned it. Practice sexclusivity (particularly if you can’t handle no-strings-attached sex) I’ve written about this extensively, so I won’t rehash the entire argument.
But, in short, if you are the type of woman who does not like the feeling of sleeping with a man when you have no idea whether he’s your boyfriend, STOP sleeping with men who are not your boyfriend.
Now, this guy is such a front-runner that she drops every other prospect like a hot potato.
What’s the point of talking to other guys when I like this one guy so much? the other guy isn’t necessarily as smitten with you. That’s a guy who is seeing you, seeing others, and keeping his options open.
It’s not the only way to do it, but I’m confident that it’s the most effective one.
I agree with Evan’s advice about waiting for sex if NSA sex does not suit you. I am very happy (and he said that he is happy when he is with me) and like him the more I get to know him. He’s attentive (he texts and chats with me online every day), affectionate, asks me out regularly (we have seen each other multiple times every week since we met), and makes time for me (he has a lot of interests and activities).But, we are technically not exclusive (meaning, we talked prior to sleeping together and said that we were both able to date others, if we wanted).However, we talked more recently and we both said that we aren’t dating anyone else, but we didn’t explicitly say that we are exclusive.This is not to say that it’s “wrong” to commit to someone before 4 weeks; merely that you’ll have a better sense of who you’re committing if you vet him first, instead of giving him a free pass to boyfriend-hood because you like him and want to sleep with him.