At this point, he’s afraid that everything he said in the beginning has led you to believe that you guys are a couple and he starts acting in a way that shows you this is not the case.He cancels plans, he goes MIA for days at a time, he acts distant.Make sure you’re on the same page relationship-wise within the first date or two.

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It’s easy to get excited when you meet someone you really like, but try to enjoy just getting to know him. You don’t need to have super intimate conversations with someone you’ve just met in the name of honesty or transparency. You are always doing the best you can, and you have infinite value despite the opinion of some guy you met a few weeks ago.

It’s not your job to make sure that every man you date falls head over heels in love with you.

You’re not exactly strangers anymore, but it’s not an established relationship yet.

The first few weeks after you meet someone new are an opportunity to discover each other and determine whether or not there is potential for a deeper connection.

The main issue with dating a man like this isn't so much the man himself, but how poorly we handle the shift (understandably so, I might add).

The problem with not being exclusive is that when a man does go cold, there is always the crippling fear this will be the end.

If you are an option, it usually means there are other options, too.

I once asked another guy for advice on how to handle such a situation, and his response was, "Cut him loose." Easier said than done, I'm sure. Perhaps there's something I can do to "change it." Though if we're being honest, trying to convince a man to like you rarely ends well.

Instead of committing himself, he continues seeing you without making things exclusive and without getting too close.

He'll continue stringing you along until he's certain, or until someone better comes along.

It's a shift so small that it would be unrecognizable to anyone else. You assume he's busy and try not to let paranoia take hold. I don't want to say it "never ends well," but the odds are rarely in our favor.